Cancer of the Psyche

The title of this post is a loaded comment, and one that I think ought to be taken seriously. The cancer to which I am referring is Self-Doubt.

Take a minute to think of your connection with this phenomenon and its effects.

How many opportunities have you missed out on because of it?
How many relationships have suffered because of it?
How much pointless agony has it caused you?
How many times has it caused you to second-guess yourself?
How much longer will you let it affect you?

Many of you know what it feels like to be under the thumb of self-doubt. You know what it's like to be affected by this cancer that slowly eats away at your self-esteem and confidence. The impact can range from frustrating to immobilizing. Don't let it control you!

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Sex After 40

We all live pretty hectic lives these days, but that doesn't mean that a fulfilling sex-life must be sacrificed!

Watch this informative interview with my personal collegiate acquaintance, Laura Berman, and learn the facts and statistics about women and sexuality in this day and age.

What Do You Want?

We all go through life making our choices and living the benefits and consequences of those choices. And one day, we "wake up" and wonder where we are and how we got there. Well, we made decisions and they took us on a journey. If the place you've ended up isn't the place you thought you'd be, perhaps you didn't really know what you wanted at the beginning of it all.

What do you want? Do you truly know? Or are you stuck?

One important thing that therapy offers is the opportunity to take a good, close look at you life and make changes based on what YOU want. This means analyzing your job, relationships, where you live, how you challenge yourself, and what brings you joy. And you get to choose what will make you happy and help you flourish. You don't have to live according to someone else's rules- you have a voice too! Of course it is important to remember that your decisions will impact the lives of those round you, so be considerate.

Do you feel stuck? Do you want something new in life but cannot pinpoint it?

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Is Relationship Counseling For You?

Here is a short check list to help you decide if relationship counseling could help you.

1. You spend more time away from your partner than usual.
2. You argue more often and about seemingly minor things.
3. You hold grudges.
4. You don't resolve conflict successfully.
5. You have trouble talking to your partner about problems, so you bring a third party friend or family member into the mix (this is also called triangulating).
6. You bring up issues from the past that you or your partner thought were resolved.
7. You question your decision to remain in the relationship.
8. You don't feel like yourself in the relationship/you or your partner have changed for the worse.
9. You have thoughts or have acted on thoughts of infidelity.
10. You have thoughts or have acted on thoughts of separation or divorce.

If you are struggling with any of these thoughts or behaviors, your relationship is running a minimal to severe risk of collapsing.

Pay attention to your relationship and partner, and when you start to notice issues that don't get resolved, be proactive and seek counseling.

If you have waited a long time for things to get better and are feeling hopeless and discouraged about the longevity of your relationship, seek counseling.

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Season with a Reason

As we embark on a the new Autumn season, we can take cues from Mother Nature to help us reinvent our lives. Just as Autumn opens the window for Winter, the earth shrugs off the old to make room for Spring and all that is new; so may we. Let this time inspire you to end ties with behaviors, beliefs, and feelings that no longer serve you and start anew with a life that YOU choose to lead... a life full of joy, love, and peace.

Let Me Help You Begin!