Breaking Up

Whether you are getting over a minor breakup or a major divorce and you had genuine and sincere feelings for that person and the relationship, breaking up can be a diffcult and painful task. It often takes a considerable amount of time to recover from this loss- the loss of a partner, the friendship that accompanied that partnership, the security that the relationship afforded you, and the temporary void you feel now that the relationship is over. Some irrational fears may accompany the break-up such as feelings of inferiority, excessive guilt for the dissolution of the relationship, and hopelessness of ever finding someone else to love you or finding someone to love.

But breakups don't have to be impossible and you can recover. The possibility of a fresher and reenergized self can emerge if you look at the breakup for what it is and what it can teach you for the future. Even in the midst of sadness and doubt and all of the pain that you may need to endure as a mourner to a former chapter of life, you can grow from the experience. Your attitude and belief system regarding breaking up and especially divorce is of utmost importance and you may find that you may need to adjust your conceptualization. It could be your saving grace- the thing that allows you to move on wiser and more self-assured that you can find happiness in life no matter what you endured in the past.

If you are dealing with these issues and find yourself stuck in bereavement or irrational thinking, counseling could help you out of it. The possibility of a happier, more productive way of experiencing love and relationships is here if you want it. All you have to do is ask.